Mistress Nyx Talks with Captain Jack
Mistress Nyx is a Dominatrix based out of Atlanta. She is a very powerful woman who has been in the lifestyle all of her adult life. I thought it would be interesting to learn about the lifestyle and the woman who lives it. Special thanks to Lisey Sweet who is a good friend of the Mistress for setting this up.
Captain Jack: Tell me about Mistress Nyx.
Mistress Nyx: I grew up in Florida and am a Sunshine Girl. I don’t like cold weather! My family is French and Spanish, very interesting mix. I love food too!
CJ: What’s Your favorite food?
Mistress Nyx: Sushi, for sure. My favorite Spanish food is Oxtail Stew and my favorite French food would be in the pastry category like a chicken and mushroom petit pâté.
CJ: How did You get into the BDSM lifestyle?
Mistress Nyx: My whole life, I was incredibly smart and understood the concept of sex at a young age thanks to the book “Everything You Need to Know About Sex.” I first encountered BDSM and leather lifestyle in college. I was 18, had a boyfriend at the time. My college was far from him and I developed a love interest with this girl. She and I kind of had this fling and we were the same age. She would make comments like, ‘Oh, you’re so powerful!’ or ‘You’re so in control of your life.’ Or ‘You always know what you want to do!’ And that evolved into her asking, ‘Would you dominate me?’ In other words, can I show you this world and you might consider taking over my life so I can be a slave to you. It was phenomenal! My whole world opened up! This fun, kinky, exciting world! Fetishes for everything! People ask what my favorite thing is and it’s so hard! I started doing this when I was 18 and I’m 31 now. (laughs)
CJ: Having a lifestyle slave, what does that all entail? Did You have her locked in a cage? Did You tell her when she could speak? What she could do, when she could go out?
Mistress Nyx: Yes and no. There is a difference between submission and slavery. Submissive people, they kind of get a say. It’s more of a relationship type of thing where they want to tell you their limits and you can’t tell them what to do in every minute detail, but they definitely bend to the will of their Dominant. And they will always listen to their advice and do their best to obey. However, because it’s more of a relationship, many times there comes a moment where they don’t want to, and therefore don’t have to, do what you want. There is a give and take and it is an actual, in my opinion, relationship. It’s something very beautiful, a functional D/s relationship. As far as slaves, that is more like, ‘I don’t give a fuck what you want, you’re going to do what I want you to do!’ Failure to obey what your dominant asks of you, tells you to do, or even failure to dress or act as they’ve trained you to is unacceptable. With the exception of try unsafe demands, any push against what you’re being told to do will make you a bad slave because you really are devoid of making choices at that point, as you should be. So, the reason I say it’s different would be that a slave’s existence is typically reliant upon the whims of their Dominatrix or Dom. Maybe they have to stay in a cage or a trunk all day… Maybe they have to sit on the floor always, maybe they are even degraded into being a mere footstool… If that’s what the Dom wants, that’s what happens. From my experience, I would say it comes down to a life decision. I’ve had a live-in slave before and for me, it’s typically that they manage all my calls, they do all my scheduling, check my calendar, prep/clean my clothing, polish my shoes, fetch my coffee as I like it… They cannot ask, ‘Excuse me Mistress, may I have lunch?’ It’s more like, I’ll look at my clock at 3 and say, ‘Oh, you haven’t had lunch yet, go ahead. 15 minutes.’ (laughs) So, those are the differences. Sometimes they are as low as a piece of furniture and then sometimes, they’re like your right hand but they can not deny you what you’ve told them to do.
CJ: With Your girlfriend that got You into it, say You went over to her parents’ house, were You still dominant to her in front of them?
Mistress Nyx: We dated for a whole year and I met her mom one time. It was when she was moving into a new apartment. I didn’t want to embarrass her because we actually did have a functional relationship in public. But, beyond that, outside of that one time when I met her mother, I would say I can’t think of a time that I didn’t assert myself as her superior in life.
CJ: Can I ask why that relationship ended?
Mistress Nyx: She was fully lesbian, I’m completely bisexual. I could care less what sex someone is. I’ve been with people from across the board. I guess you can’t even say bisexual now because there are transgendered people that I would be attracted to. But, with her, she was strictly lesbian and she wanted me to be part of a monogamous lesbian couple with her. And I’m the type of person that will definitely say, ‘No. I like what I like and there’s a reason I like everything. And I’m not going to stop being attracted to what I’m attracted to.’ Not only that, but to be 18 and commit? Like I said, I was always ahead of my time. I talked her down for a while, but I certainly wasn’t interested in being ‘locked into something’ at that time.
CJ: You discovered this when you were 18. How were You before that? Were You a typical schoolgirl that tried to attract the attention of the star football player?
Mistress Nyx: If you think about it in a psychological way, at that time, Mistress Nyx didn’t exist yet. I didn’t know anything about the world of BDSM, but if you were to look at my actual childhood, I had 10 male friends to every one female friend. (laughs) And that is female superiority. You can just walk into a room and these guys would follow you and the other girls wouldn’t like it. That was how my friendships functioned and my closest female friends were on par with me – smart, powerful, controlling. It’s like you get to have this secret inside joke. You understand something that no other girls understand about men and the world. (laughs) If you look back at it that way, psychologically speaking, I’ve always had a dominant personality. I’ve always had guys chasing my heels. I certainly wouldn’t say I’m the most gorgeous bombshell ever. I know I’m pretty, but there’s a reason men follow me. I would say 80% of it is a confident aura. While everyone is influenced by those they admire, I have never tried to be something I’m not. 20% could be looks, attire, whatever else… but the rest is simply my attractive personality.
CJ: How long have You been a professional dominatrix?
Mistress Nyx: Professionally, it’s pretty hard to say. Before now, pretty much all of my “professional domintrix” sessions were on a pretty personal level. It was with people I have chatted with, met several times… Anyway, whatever it was, we developed a strong bond. I always keep their information confidential, they can trust me, and they can come and release all of their inhibitions with me and they will not worry about looking bad or whatever other people would think. So that’s how it was before now. I’ve always taken breaks, even yearlong breaks, from the lifestyle. Mostly because I like to travel, but also because I truly enjoy the lifestyle enough that if I feel bored, or I feel like I’m ‘working’ I’ll step back until it’s fun and excites me again. Recently, I’ve been establishing more connections within the community and over the years, I’ve made a lot of really good, prominent friends. Now I have a bit more time on my hands. I own a small business, so I get to work from home often. With more free time, I’d rather be making extra money while enjoying more Dom-space, something I really love.
CJ: Before we go any further, some people don’t understand what professional domination is. There is no sex involved, correct?
Mistress Nyx: Correct. Absolutely no sex. Let me say, though, it is mainly because there is not a man out there worthy enough. (laughs) That’s the whole point of it. You can dream about it, you can think about it…whatever you do behind closed doors is your business. But when we’re in session, you will find yourself trying to STOP thinking about having sex, because it comes with punishment!
CJ: I’ve been on Your Instagram page and I have to tell You, Mistress Nyx, You have a fantastic body. Do You get naked in session? Or what do You wear?
Mistress Nyx: Thank you. My preference is CFNM, which is Clothed Female, Nude Male, and I almost never, ever session without the male completely nude. There’s something about a guy being completely without, it makes me feel very strong. So that’s the first part of it. The second part is that I have all these nice, amazing, gorgeous, slinky clothes and I don’t see why I should expose myself to you and remove my amazing outfit. I put this together and you should be honored that I wore this in your presence. That’s one aspect of it. The other is sometimes the Domintrix might just get hot while she’s beating you up and take off her top or her bra. That’s pretty normal. As far as everything else, wouldn’t you like to know? Just get a session and find out. There will never be sex but it’s different for everyone. I think it depends on how much your Domintrix really likes you.
CJ: What kind of punishments do You administer?
Mistress Nyx: We can use last night as an example. I was domming someone who had the fetish of being smothered by his Goddess’ ass and really celebrated ass worship. I was talking to him and we did a little edgeplay. It’s over long distance, I don’t know this guy from Adam. He sent me a picture of himself locked up in a chastity cage. And I wanted his dick to get so swollen that it was almost purple in that cage. That is a true punishment. Sometimes, when there is no cage involved and I see an erection forming, I’ll get out that riding crop and ‘tap, tap it’ harder and harder until it goes down. (laughs) And I also get into really severe CBT as well.
CJ: If a new client were to approach You, what should he do?
Mistress Nyx: Anybody can go online and find lists and rules about protocol. But to be honest, all kinds of Dominas are so different in how they like to be treated. I really don’t mind any of the formal words—Mistress, Goddess, Domina, Domitrix—I’m not picky about it, but some are. Additionally, I think a lot of times, everything about you has to be lower case and everything about Me has to be uppercase. To Me, it’s a bit of a hassle when I’m typing people back and forth, and I don’t like to be bothered. I like the idea of them expending that effort but I personally don’t do that at all. Also, if you’re not sure about something, especially with your first session or your first time seeing a Dominatrix or Dom, you should ask what you should call them. Just inform yourself. Most of them, especially if they’ve been doing it for a while, will understand. I would say that you should reply with their formality and name at the beginning or end of every sentence. And say ‘thank you’ and ‘please’ and all that. Keep things short and succinct. Don’t waste their time babbling on and on about what you like. They don’t care, really, and it’s probably all something they’ve heard a million times before. If you want to babble, I’ll start charging you by the minute or message.
CJ: OK, arrangements have been made, what happens when he knocks on Your door?
Mistress Nyx: I open the door and I motion him in, he’ll place his tribute in my tribute bowl, then he’ll walk right past me and get undressed. Usually, there’s a bathroom or stall or someplace to use for that. Then he can rejoin her and begin session. I like to start them on their knees. Suggestion – Always bring something extra – a gift or something to show that you personally are honored to be visiting.
CJ: What kind of Mistress are you? Are You intense? Sensual? Demanding?
Mistress Nyx: I would say that I’ve tried to be sensual over the years and it’s pretty hard for me. I’m more on the intense side. I have a super, super sweet voice and I love to use it. It excites me to know that they aren’t expecting cruelty with a voice like mine. I like them to hear and experience something completely different. I would say the most in the zone I ever get would be if we’re doing CBT and you’re letting me use my more interesting and torturous toys. My preference is with clothespins and dowels. Then internally, I’m like, ‘Yes! You better know your safeword because nothing else is getting through my head.’ (laughs) I would say I’m much more intense as far as the things I enjoy. But then, for sensual or milder things, I truly enjoy traditional, protocol type of things, like behavior modification or cleaning all of my shoes. Watching someone do the things that I think are beneath me doing myself… I really am passionate about seeing tedious tasks done for me. I also like foot worship, ass worship…if I get a massage out of it, great! (laughs) I’m all about that. I guess that’s the sensual, milder stuff I like. As far as an intense session though, that’s my favorite.
CJ: You said clothespins and dowels, how do you use them?
Mistress Nyx: Go to the Home Depot website and look up dowels. They are basically wooden rods. They come in all sizes and lengths and thicknesses and whatever else. I like them because it’s a homemade toy and it’s adjustable. Hopefully, other Domintrixes don’t steal my secrets. (laughs) If they do and they’re reading this interview, I’m joking – they’re actually welcome to it, they’re going to love it! I take 2 dowels and put them on top and bottom of this erect little cock. I use dowels that are 8-10” long and I use rubber bands to close off the ends of the dowels. Now, however many times you loop the rubber bands, is how tight it will crunch down on that cock. It’s like a steamroller. You can go from ‘it’s tight and is uncomfortable for me’ to ‘Oh my God! How am I going to withstand this!?’ Now I will say, if you do not have the experience and the knowhow to do something like this, you can seriously injure someone. You could cause internal bleeding. It’s really fun because at certain widths, you can slide from base to tip and I have gotten really good at it (beginners might need lube.) I really enjoy it. That’s something that you can do with dowels. Additionally, if the submissive is kneeling and you have dowels on them, the dowels can fit right on top of their lap and you can step on there and do other stuff like that. It’s like they become your little stepping stool! (laughs)
CJ: What do You wear? Does the client request an outfit?
Mistress Nyx: At the end of the day, I don’t really give a damn what they want. You’ve seen my pictures, I’m online and this helps you learn about how I am, and still they’ll say, ‘You have to wear all latex/leather/lace’ whatever. To demands like that, I say ‘I’m sorry, are you Domming me? No. No you’re not.’ (laughs) But, if they tell me things like ‘I really enjoy this outfit you wore’ or ‘I really like your corsets’ or if they very politely express a preference and I have the items available, typically I will wear them in session because I know it’ll get them more excited, and that they adore that outfit on me. When they’ve been polite, I know they’re honored that I’ve chosen to wear that thing that excites them. I know a lot of Domintrix’s wear what the client wants and I think it’s very nice but I personally don’t respond to anyone who treats me like a dress-up doll. You’re my dress-up doll.
CJ: Do You do different roleplays if asked?
Mistress Nyx: Oh yes! Absolutely – I have a list they can choose from. I love being a teacher or even being a “therapist”. It’s so interesting having them lie down and tell me their thoughts. I medicate them with behavior modification and/or punishments for their transgressions. I’ve been a boss and I’ve definitely been a rich man’s wife who had a sissy maid. (laughs)
CJ: Let’s talk about some of your interests. You’ve mentioned a couple of times that You are into CBT. Besides dowels and clothespins, what other torture devices do You have?
Mistress Nyx: There is basically a wooden box with a hole in the top. The top is removable and inside is like an arch they use for back support. Well, the submissive or slave will lay in the box face up. Their body is covered by the box but through the hole is their cock and balls. It’s pretty fun because you can either let them see you—the box comes to about mid-chest so you can cover their face or not—and you can step on their balls, you can kick them, you can do whatever you want! They just stick out of the top of that box and they are there for you to torment! (laughs) There are a whole bunch of other devices… Any Dominatrix could go on forever about CBT strategies! (laughs)
CJ: What other BDSM activities do You enjoy?
Mistress Nyx: Oh, there’s a lot. One thing I really enjoy is turning people into dolls. Another activity I enjoy is outside of the dungeon and just for my private play. I’ll go out to a BDSM event with a couple submissives/slaves and let them trail behind me. Never more or less than 3 feet away from me. They can’t come within 3 feet of my space, but they can’t wander off, either. They exist to follow and to make sure I have everything I need. When I sit in a chair, they sit on the floor beside me. I love showing off my little treasures. I choose what they wear and how they act and I really love being in control of them for that time. Then, back into the dungeon, there are some new toys I want to play with. I like ‘red light, green light’ but I’m not going to explain it… Then, there are some medical scenes I want to get into, the more intensive stuff like piercing – but I won’t be doing those things until I learn more about them. (laughs)
CJ: So piercing, You actually go through the skin?
Mistress Nyx: Oh yes. And you can pierce certain places without damaging the person. That’s what I would be interested in. I wouldn’t want to get into blood play because that’s a dangerous grey area. I have seen it done by a piercing expert, and it’s very cool. It’s something really intriguing to sit in on a session like that. As far as myself, I’m only interested in doing the small tortures.
CJ: Do You do corporal punishment?
Mistress Nyx: Yes! Flogging, caning, slapping… Over-the-knee spankings, if you want something softer. I really enjoy all those things. I’ve done lots and lots of face slapping in the past, apprently I have a knack for it.
CJ: You like playing with Your dolls, so You dress them up in women’s clothes? Total female transformations including wigs?
Mistress Nyx: Yes. I’ve had some sessions where all I did was teach them how to apply makeup. And I’ve had sessions where I’ve used a dildo to teach them how to suck a dick right. So there’s a whole range there! (laughs)
CJ: You teach them to suck a dick with, I assume, a strap-on. Do You ever bring in a guy for forced bi?
Mistress Nyx: I’m just going to leave that one up to Your imagination. (laughs)
CJ: Have You ever fisted a guy?
Mistress Nyx: As far as fisting goes, that’s not really my forte’.
CJ: When the session is over, how do You want the client to feel?
Mistress Nyx: Euphoric. When I say ‘euphoric’, you want them to feel complete inside. To experience sub-space. There’s something about a kink that’s like nothing else. You can’t stop thinking about it and can’t wait until next time. It’s amazing. And I’ve also had people that wanted me to make them cry. There are many people that never cry; they keep it together for everyone around them. These are strong, alpha people in their vanilla life. People whose families and peers look up to them… This type of crying, even if they appear sad, is an ultimate release for them. They’ll visit again and again because they can’t cry in their everyday lives. They don’t know how else get to that release without their kink or corporal punishment. You become a part of what they need. It seems like it’s not euphoric to be crying but they’re just releasing all of that tension or pressure and it’s nice that a Dominatrix can be an important part of that. Lots of people confide in their most trusted Dominatrix.
CJ: What do You get out of the session?
Mistress Nyx: If you’re training someone and they do really well, I’m proud of them. I might not show it because you have to be a bad ass – but inside, you’re like ‘Oh my God! That sissy couldn’t even put on eyeliner last session and now he’s deep throating a dildo!’ (laughs) That’s the kind of thing where I feel proud. There are other times where I’ll be in Dom Space and you’re in a rhythm and it’s a high. During flogging, I become so focused on the marks I want to make. I don’t know how else to explain it. It’s a really enjoyable, powerful feeling.
CJ: What is the age range that You have dominated?
Mistress Nyx: 18 is the youngest, of course. I do have an age limit simply because there’s a point where I feel a disconnect. Probably the oldest person I’ve sessioned with was 61. I prefer 21-45 at the moment.
CJ: We’ve talked about men. Do You take on Women clients?
Mistress Nyx: Absolutely! I love women!
CJ: Are they usually with a man or by themselves?
Mistress Nyx: I have only sessioned with one couple ever. But I do know a lot of really amazing Dominatrixes where they take on couples and it’s like couples therapy… Maybe better. If you want to be dominated by your wife and another woman or if you want to submit to your husband and a Domintrix or Dom, I think that would be so much fun for a couple! I really do! Even if it’s just for fun. Sometimes I think it’s like therapy. Let your wife beat the shit out of you because you’ve been an asshole all week. (laughs) Let a woman teach your lady how to do something right. Obviously, I’d be open to couples, I just haven’t had that many personally. As far as females, I’m very drawn to female sessions, so, while they aren’t as common, I probably get a little more than most because I have a sexual interest in both men and women. It’s not like I’m just accepting a session from a girl; I’ll usually find something about her attractive. Note that I don’t mean strictly how they look, I usually find a certain je ne sais quoi. I probably get 2/3 men, though.
CJ: Then it’s CFNF, Clothed Female, Naked Female?
Mistress Nyx: (laughs) Yes, exactly!
CJ: You mentioned the dowel treatment before. Do You do that on women’s breasts?
Mistress Nyx: I can. It would definitely work on nipples. Absolutely. I would say shorter, thinner dowels would be better. I think it would be fun to even rubber band two sticks together like a little skewers or something and it might be possible to do that on a clit. If a girl’s out there reading this and would like to experiment with me, call me. (laughs) That sounds like fun to me!
CJ: If You were at a bar with some girlfriends and a guy approached you and said, ‘Mistress Nyx, could I buy you a drink?’ What would You do?
Mistress Nyx: Oh, you’re asking for it. That’s an opportunity to tease, especially if I was out with the girls. For example, if Lisey and I were out at a bar we’d definitely plot against that guy! ‘OK, boy, you have to ask the bartender on your knees’ or ‘You’d have to pay us to speak to you in the middle of the room. Make it obvious that you’re paying us to even talk to you.’ (laughs) Or ‘Maybe if you put your hands together and look up at us, you can buy us one drink and I’ll throw it in your face!’ That’s the kind of fun I like to have.
CJ: I addressed You as Mistress Nyx because that’s what I know You as, but if a stranger just asks, you’d do the same thing, right?
Mistress Nyx: Yeah, if it’s me with a troublemaker friend, we’ll have fun. If it’s me by myself, I’ll just typically just say no and ignore them after that. I choose who I speak to, I don’t really respond much to bar-sharks.
CJ: What about just general shopping, do You let anything go or if a clerk or store does You wrong, do You let them know about it right away?
Mistress Nyx: Oh hell yes, bad service is not ok! I’m not at the point of being a complete cunt, but I will certainly say, ‘Hey, this is wrong.’ or ‘Why don’t you take a bite of it?’ I can’t stand it when people get things wrong, but I understand the difference between a server getting an order wrong and a kitchen cooking something incorrectly. I’m nice until I need to put my foot down. As for shopping in stores, I’m not afraid to complain about rude or useless employees. Not to their manager – to their company. I keep it classy, but I do get irritated with poor service. I’ve worked restaurant and retail. Even on my worst days, I didn’t take it out on customers.
CJ: You’re located in Atlanta. Do you travel or just do sessions down there?
Mistress Nyx: I do travel. On a personal level, I travel a whole lot. As far as taking sessions in other places, I plan to in the near future. I haven’t really been associated with any particular dungeon yet, and I’m not sure I want to be. At the moment, I just borrow dungeon space by the hour. I really look forward to meeting more people and making more friends in the BDSM community. Of course, when I travel now, I’ll be looking for the nearest dungeon!
CJ: And how can the fans find you on the internet?
Mistress Nyx: My website is www.MistressNyxAtl.com.
On Instagram and Twitter, I’m @Mistress NyxAtl.
My email address is MistressNyx@protonmail.com
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